The short answer to how we become comfortable with death is honoring those that have died. Though art, music, writing, film or simply showing up every day and being present.
The day of the dead is celebrated in many cultures.They have created rituals and celebrations to honor those that have died. Día de los Muertos the Day of the Dead is the Mexican celebration of those that have gone before. What I find important is being comfortable with the past and being able to talk and celebrate with such an artful approach. Examples of expressing and honoring the dead are though making alters, paintings, costumes photography and films such as Coco.
Find the expression that suits you.
How do we hold space for the deep losses we as individuals and as a community feel. The traditional Jewish prayer of mourning, the Kaddish a prayer traditional recited for the dead.
We all grief differently and here is another perspective from a Tedx Talk by Aarti Patil.
From Tedx Talks – Grief is a difficult, and long process but it is not the same for everyone. It’s a unique path that is different for each and every person. Aarti Patil is a Nursing and Public Health major at the University of Texas at Arlington. As the daughter and the sister of UTA alumni, Aarti has immersed herself in her Maverick pride through her involvement in the MavElite Tour Guides, Freshmen Leaders on Campus, Maverick Mentors, and the UTA Ambassadors. Aarti is eternally grateful to her father, Uday, and her sister, Devika, for their immense support and love. A part from being a full-time student, Aarti continues to pursue her part-time air guitar career.